Thinking of an Affair? Think Again!
On March 01st, 2021 the Sri Lanka Police found unattended luggage in the streets of Colombo. Inside, they found a headless female body. In a similar incident on 30th July 2015, they found another female body in luggage left behind in the street. Besides having been murdered both victims shared another common factor. They both have had an affair with their killers. I feel sorry for these innocent women. After all, nobody deserves to die in such a horrible fashion for having an affair. Unfortunately, we can only choose our actions, not the consequences. The choices we make today define our life tomorrow. An affair will not get you killed always but it can cost you so much that life could become not worth living. Below I have shared a few ways an affair could make life miserable for you.
An affair can ruin your Family
After an affair, two-thirds of marriages end in divorce, and the majority of those who do survive need years of repentance, forgiveness, therapy, and healing before they can be restored. It’s difficult to recover from betrayal. The same is true for children. If you have children, your betrayal will leave them bewildered and hurt. In cases of infidelity, children face particular difficulties because they are always caught in the middle, carrying a burden that no one should have to bear. Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth your loving family.
An affair can ruin your Peace
CNN Business after speaking with several victims of the Ashley Madison hack published an article. It stressed many victims of the hack lived in constant fear of being found out. Some were afraid their employers would find out and sack them while others feared their spouses would file for divorce. Another large group feared extortion by the hackers. Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because itโs not worth your peace of mind.
An affair can ruin your Legacy
A Google search for “Rachel Uchitel” returns about 857,000 results in 0.49 seconds. There’s another name that appears next to almost every individual result. “Tiger” Woods or Eldrick Tont. In November 2009 media accused Woods of having an affair with Uchitel. Twelve years down the road people still talk about it thanks to the internet. An average affair doesnโt last for more than six months. However, it can tarnish your legacy forever. Are you thinking of an affair? Well, think again because itโs not worth your legacy.
The words of another manโs wife may seem as sweet as honey; they may be as smooth as olive oil. But in the end, she will bring you sorrow, causing you pain like a two-edged sword. She is on the way to death; her steps are headed straight to the grave. She gives little thought to life. She doesnโt even know that her ways are wrong.
King Solomon (1010 BCE)
An affair can ruin your Health
We are living in an age where Socially Transmitted diseases like HIV are prevalent. HIV is fatal because it destroys the immune system making you vulnerable to a host of other diseases. (Please test if you have ever had sex outside marriage. I recommend Know4Sure for a safe, confidential, and anonymous test.) Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because itโs not worth your health.
An affair can ruin your life
โLifeโs Short โ Have an affairโ is the slogan of Ashley Madison. Ironically followed by its epic hack several clients had to cut their lives shorter. They feared exposure and took their own lives. A Pastor in the US was among those who committed suicide. Who would have thought an affair could cost a life? Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because itโs not worth your precious life.
An affair can ruin Others
The Hollywood film โUnfaithfulโ tells the story of a wife and mother (Diane Lane) in an affair. The film became a hit and Bollywood cinema also adopted it. When her husband (Richard Gere) finds out he confronts the lover. An argument breaks and he kills the lover. You may say itโs just a movie but often the incidents we see in โreel lifeโ are inspired by incidents in real life. A spouse can become jealous to the point of murdering after finding out about the infidelity. Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because itโs not worth ruining the lives of your loved ones.
Wrap Up: Thereโs Hope
No matter how damaging an affair can be, sometimes the temptation feels overwhelming. As human beings, we all have emotions and desires that are powerful and persistent. Perhaps you’ve experienced an affair in the past, or maybe you’re currently battling the urge to give in to infidelity. You might even be caught in an ongoing affair, unsure of how to escape or where to begin. Whatever your situation may be, I want you to know thisโI’m not here to judge you. We all struggle in different ways, and this might be yours. What matters now is finding a way forward. I’m here to support you with understanding, not condemnation, and help you find hope and healing. Please feel free to drop me an email and I will connect you with people willing and capable of helping you. [Read my previous post “3 Myths about Pornography I wish were True” in the event you missed it]
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