On March 01st, 2021 the Sri Lanka Police found unattended luggage in the streets of Colombo. Inside, they found a headless female body. In a similar incident on 30th July 2015, they found another female body in luggage left behind in the street. Besides having been murdered both victims shared another common factor. They both have had an affair with their killers.
I feel sorry for these innocent women. After all, nobody deserves to die in such a horrible fashion for having an affair. Unfortunately, we can only choose our actions, not the consequences. The choices we make today define our life tomorrow. An affair will not get you killed always but it can cost you so much that life could become not worth living. Below I have shared a few ways an affair could make life miserable for you.
An affair can ruin your family
After an affair, two-thirds of marriages end in divorce, and the majority of those that do survive need years of repentance, forgiveness, therapy, and healing before they can be restored. It’s difficult to recover from betrayal. The same is true for children. If you have children, your betrayal will leave them bewildered and hurt. In cases of infidelity, children face particular difficulties because they are always caught in the middle, carrying a burden that no one should have to bear. Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth your loving family.
An affair can ruin your peace
CNN Business after speaking with several victims of the Ashley Madison hack published an article. It stressed many victims of the hack lived in constant fear of being found out. Some were afraid their employers will find out and sack them while others feared their spouses will file for divorce. Another large group feared extortion by the hackers. Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth your peace of mind.
An affair can ruin your legacy
A Google search for “Rachel Uchitel” returns about 857,000 results in 0.49 seconds. There’s another name that appears next to almost every individual result. “Tiger” Woods or Eldrick Tont. In November 2009 media accused Woods of having an affair with Uchitel. Twelve years down the road people still talk about it thanks to the internet. An average affair doesn’t last for more than six months. However, it can tarnish your legacy forever. Are you thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth your legacy.
An affair can ruin your health
We are living in an age where Socially Transmitted Deceases like HIV is prevalent. HIV is fatal because it destroys the immune system making you vulnerable to a host of other diseases. (Please test if you have ever had sex outside marriage. I recommend Know4Sure for a safe, confidential, and anonymous test.) Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth your health.
An affair can ruin your life
“Life’s Short – Have an affair” is the slogan of Ashley Madison. Ironically followed by its epic hack several clients had to cut their lives shorter. They feared exposure and took their own lives. A Pastor in the US was among those who committed suicide. Who would have thought an affair could cost a life? Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth your precious life.
An affair can ruin others
The Hollywood film “Unfaithful” tells the story of a wife and mother (Diane Lane) in an affair. The film became a hit and Bollywood cinema also adopted it. When her husband (Richard Gere) finds out he confronts the lover. An argument breaks and he kills the lover. You may say it’s just a movie but often the incidents we see in “reel life” are inspired by incidents in real life. A spouse can become jealous to the point of murdering after finding out about the infidelity. Are you still thinking of an affair? Well, think again because it’s not worth ruining the lives of your loved ones.
Wrap Up: There’s Hope
No matter how bad an affair is sometimes we cannot help the urge to give in. After all, we are humans with feelings and desires that are real and always present. Maybe you have been in an affair in the past or wrestling against the desire to give in to infidelity. Maybe you are neck-deep in infidelity and do not even know how to walk away. Whoever you are I don’t judge you because I am here to help. Please feel free to drop me an email and I will connect you with people willing and capable of helping you. [Read my previous post “3 Myths about Pornography I wish were True” in the event you missed it]
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